ARE MEN REALLY SCUM?

   

Few days ago, I read a post online about a girl accusing men of getting close to women solely for sexual gains. I was repulsed by this post as it was wrong on so many levels. Women are intellectual and sensitive beings, we have to ability to spot falsehood a mile away but many times we overlook them and pray that things will turn out the way we want them to. We can tell the intention of every man from the first conversation but we lie to ourselves and hope for the best, or hope we'd be the one to change him. This is fallacy!

As a young woman, I've been approached by a number of men in my life. I thought it was because I was talented, intelligent, and "fun." I deluded myself so much so that I got hurt too many times to count. It is what inspired me to start blogging; Heartbreak, being let down by someone I had imagined a future with is painful. So I reflected, I thought of what I was doing wrong, what I was saying wrong or what I wasn't doing. I realized I was deluding myself like everybody else, blaming the man for being so wicked, forgetting that I knew his intentions and went ahead anyway, hoping for the best. I could tell the fake ones from the real ones and sometimes I let go and went ahead with the fake because of the obvious “bad boy” exterior, then blamed and demonized him when he eventually hurt me.

In my opinion, we give men too much credit. Men are simple-minded. They don’t have complex theories like we do about everything. They want something and they go for it. If they want just sex, they pull all the stops to impress you, and once they get what they want, their ego is reinforced and they move on, leaving us women in a terrible state. It’s time we stood and our ground and put an end to this viscous cycle. If a guy wants just sex, you can tell, if he wants a relationship you can also tell. Why then will you sleep with a guy who you know deep down wants just sex and "hope," a relationship comes out of it? And when he disappoints you, you and your "girlfriends," gather round and say, "Men are scum!" It’s ludicrous!

Some women, go as far as chasing the guy, literally throwing themselves at the guys, when he finally agrees, they sleep with him and the next day, he does not  return their calls and again, they conclude and demonize him. Honey, you asked for it! You have to know that YOU have all the power before sex, once you give in, you hand it over to him. So be very sure of his intentions before letting go, rather than giving it out easily and demonizing him afterwards. It's time we took responsibility for our own actions.

Men aren't the problem, we are! We clearly don't know our self worth and are too desperate to fit into the norm of society we allow men that have no business talking to us into our panties. It’s time we reevaluate our choices, recognize that we are invaluable and start acting like it! Take back your place in the society. You are not destined to be subject to the man, you are your own woman. To all the strong women out there, I applaud you! Keep fighting, and remain AMAZING!