The Love of God first

Recently, I finally realized something very important, and that is, "a man who does not have the love of God in him, cannot love you or himself, because he is incapable of love". 

Let me put it this way, God is love and with Him we learn how to love ourselves and when we love ourselves we are able to love the people around us, without Him, we simply cannot grasp the concept of love and therefore incapable loving ourselves or showing love. It all first starts with God, now if God is not in the picture, the source of love is absent and when the source of pure unadulterated love is not there, all that is left is lust and infatuation which is very easily confused with love.

So, if the man you’re in a relationship with does not have God his life, and does not have the love of God in his heart, I’m sorry but you’re wasting your time luv. He is incapable of loving you. Many of us girls stick around, believing that he will change, be nicer, more romantic, spontaneous, treat us like queens and all that, when we know deep down it is not possible. Only God can change a man, we can’t; and sitting around with a guy for years, unhappy in a loveless relationship giving your all to him will not make him love you because he does not have the love of God in him.

So darling, pick up your bags and move on. You have stayed with this man for years or maybe months, there is no sign of him popping the question, what are you waiting for? Or is he abusing you? And I don’t mean just physically, emotionally too, if he is, leave. Don’t wait around showing him love and expecting him to do the same because he does not have that ability until he turns to God.

If you do choose to stick around because your heart won’t just let go, then pray, pray and introduce him to the Alpha and the Omega, The beginning and the end, the I Am that I Am, the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords, bring him to Jesus, get down on your knees and pray that he turns to God so he can have Jesus as his Lord and Savior, then he gets the capacity to love you in sickness and in health.

Sweetheart, if by any chance the problem is you, and you do not have the ability to love today, the solution is pretty easy, give your life to Jesus today, He will teach you how to because He loves you very much.


xoxo