Love YOU first

“It gets lonely sometimes, I sit back and wonder if there’s something wrong with me or something I’m doing wrong, and each time I hit a brick wall as cannot fully understand why I am still single. I am old enough to be in a responsible relationship with the hope of settling down and starting a family but for some reason, the possibility of that is farther away from me each passing day. I often ask myself, where did I go wrong? Did I make a mistake when I was younger I am now paying for? Or is the universe just punishing me for no just cause? 

Finally, I resolved that the best thing to do I live while I wait for this man to show up. I decided to pick myself up from self pity and be the woman I can be with everything God has given me. I am going to find myself again, rediscover what I love doing and what makes me happy and just do them. I realized, I cannot sit here in self pity, depressed about my marital status any longer as it was making me age faster, wrinkles of worry and fear had formed on my face and I just saw them, how did I let myself get to this point of enormous unhappiness? I have so much to be grateful for and so much to live for and I allowed the fact that I am without a spouse rule me. No more, I am going to start focusing on me, love me, focus on the good things life has to offer, the solutions and not the problems(I may be single now but my prince charming is on his way), and no matter how lonely and quiet it gets, on a daily basis I will choose to be happy.”

Honey, do you feel this way sometimes? Do you get tired of the single status and just want a man to settle down and have kids with, I get you boo, he will come but before he does, live your life to the fullest, travel, try new things, explore the world in a responsible way, find yourself again, love yourself, get a new hobby, progress in your career, simply be you and be happy, and at the right time, he will show up.

xoxo

Victory Over Pain

"I am there in the morning, I'm there at night, I'm the first thing you feel when you get up in the morning. I take joy in seeing you cry and I get my strength from your weakness.
I get fatter when you give up, it is like food to my stomach when you cry yourself to sleep.
The days you thought of ending it all were my happiest days but I was disappointed when you started choosing not to. You have abandoned me now, the tears I derived joy from have been replaced with laughter, I am now miserable because you do not worry anymore. I am hungry because you've chosen to keep holding on. Why?! Why have you chosen to be a strong woman today, why have you forsaken me and chosen to be happy today? I no longer have room in your life, you have replaced me in your thoughts, I am now dying and soon I will be no more because you have moved on and you are happy now".
Signed- Pain.
                                                                                                                                           


This is what happens when you choose to be strong no matter what, to be hopeful even when you don't see any signs of things getting better, to be happy no matter what. It destroys every pain, fear, sadness in your life when you take a stand to not let them rule over you anymore.

Keep choosing to be happy today, make no room for sadness, fear and pain.
Stay blessed!


xoxo

SEASONS

Spring, Summer, Autumn and Winter, no matter how long it may last, each season ends; and another begins, it's an unending circle.

I use this to console myself when things get tough sometimes, I remain strong because I know it may seem like forever now but like every season, it too shall pass and I get my peace back.

Whatever you may be going through, be rest assured it too shall pass and a new season shall come so hold on and do not be dismayed, you will be just fine.




xoxo

Destined for Greatness

I may not be able to tell what the future holds right this minute but one thing I am sure of is I am destined for greatness and no matter how things get, I hold on to this. I will be great someday, I don't know when or how but I will be.

I have been through so much I could write a book but I wouldn't know where to start, there are so many stories and they were humbling processes that helped mold
me daily to be the woman I've been destined to be.


You have a destiny, do not shortchange yourself because you cannot see this so you don't ruin your tomorrow by giving up hope today. You will be great because you are destined for greatness!

Speak who and want to be and it will stand.


xoxo

The Love of God first

Recently, I finally realized something very important, and that is, "a man who does not have the love of God in him, cannot love you or himself, because he is incapable of love". 

Let me put it this way, God is love and with Him we learn how to love ourselves and when we love ourselves we are able to love the people around us, without Him, we simply cannot grasp the concept of love and therefore incapable loving ourselves or showing love. It all first starts with God, now if God is not in the picture, the source of love is absent and when the source of pure unadulterated love is not there, all that is left is lust and infatuation which is very easily confused with love.

So, if the man you’re in a relationship with does not have God his life, and does not have the love of God in his heart, I’m sorry but you’re wasting your time luv. He is incapable of loving you. Many of us girls stick around, believing that he will change, be nicer, more romantic, spontaneous, treat us like queens and all that, when we know deep down it is not possible. Only God can change a man, we can’t; and sitting around with a guy for years, unhappy in a loveless relationship giving your all to him will not make him love you because he does not have the love of God in him.

So darling, pick up your bags and move on. You have stayed with this man for years or maybe months, there is no sign of him popping the question, what are you waiting for? Or is he abusing you? And I don’t mean just physically, emotionally too, if he is, leave. Don’t wait around showing him love and expecting him to do the same because he does not have that ability until he turns to God.

If you do choose to stick around because your heart won’t just let go, then pray, pray and introduce him to the Alpha and the Omega, The beginning and the end, the I Am that I Am, the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords, bring him to Jesus, get down on your knees and pray that he turns to God so he can have Jesus as his Lord and Savior, then he gets the capacity to love you in sickness and in health.

Sweetheart, if by any chance the problem is you, and you do not have the ability to love today, the solution is pretty easy, give your life to Jesus today, He will teach you how to because He loves you very much.


xoxo

You will win the war

I wonder what I did that was so unforgivable that you completely shut me out. All I ever did was love you, a mistake I’ll have to live with for the rest of my life. I thought you might be the one, deep down I knew you weren’t but more than anything I wanted it to be you, I wanted you to want me, to be loved, was that overstepping? I’ve never been good enough, just for once I wanted to be; I wanted you to look at me and see nothing else but me, I wanted to be more.

I get lonely sometimes, and I still hurt deeply, for years, this wound has not healed and I’ve tried, I’ve done everything to fill this hole within but nothing has worked. I know I can get through this, and the tears right now are proof of my humanity and a step forward towards redemption. I am not good now but I will be tomorrow. It will be slow and painful but I know but I am a strong independent woman and I will get through this. After all, what doesn’t kill me only makes me stronger. I am a fighter and I will continue to fight; I may have lost this battle but I will win this war.

More than anything, I have Jesus, and I know He loves me, even if it may be difficult because I can’t exactly see Him right now but I know He’s here with me. If you’re feeling down right now, ready to give up, don’t, the sun always rises no matter how dark the night gets and so will you. You will shine, brighter than you could possible imagine, you will win the war. :)

xoxo

Your words and actions

"A strong woman isn't afraid to tell it like it is. She knows her words are powerful, and can be used to build people up or put them in their place"- Unknown

As a woman on her journey to greatness, your words matter. Everything that you say is a reflection of what is in you. So if vile things come out of your mouth, you must be vile inside, that simple.
Ladies, we must understand that less is more, and you do not need to say so much to get want you want. Let your actions speak for you, so when you do speak it will have great value. You want to be respected? Respect those around you, you do not demand for it. You want to be shown love? Show love to those around you.

Newton's third law of motion was very accurate when it said' "for every action, there is an equal and opposite re-action"; This means that for every force, there is a reaction force that is equal in size, but opposite in direction. Simply put, whatever you put out there, you get it back to you just as you put it out there; so, you want love? show love. That simple.

You cannot be a legend someday by stepping on people's heads. You cannot truly been seen as a strong independent woman by bullying others, it is not the way strength works, while you are strong for yourself, it has to rub off on others around you. younger girls and women around you should aspire to be like you someday. It does not come easy but we all must master this to be great.

Speak love today, speak joy, be kind, give off a positive vibe at work, at school today, wherever you are today, let your words bless those around you today. Be a good example today, and as you do so, you will get an equal and opposite reaction from those around you.

Stay blessed luv!

xoxo

Sandpaper

"When the going gets tough, keep holding on".

There will be hard times, there will be times when all you want to do is give up, don't you dare.
You've gone through too much to give up now, and frankly it's too late to give up now.

Maybe you lost your job, got your heart broken, was betrayed, whatever trial this world has thrown at you or is throwing at you, keep holding on.

Sandpaper rubs harshly on the surface of the wood, and I'm sure if the wood could speak, it would cry out in agony begging for it to stop, but in the end, when the sandpaper is worn out, the wood is smooth and beautiful. The same applies to us sometimes, this bad situations are like the sandpaper, they bring pain and absolute agony an we cry out begging it to stop because it's too hard but when those tough times pass, which they will, we will come out smoother, stronger and more beautiful than ever.

Whatever your sandpaper may be right now, don't give up, you are being polished for your great tomorrow luv.

xoxo

You can do it!

“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it” – Maya Angelou

You want to be somebody? Love yourself!

So many strong beautiful women out there are struggling in life because they have not grasped this simple principle.
Think about it, how can you possible give off a positive energy if you’re always negative? How can you tell someone to be strong if you don’t even believe in yourself?
And how can you succeed if you doubt yourself constantly and believe you do not deserve it?

To be great, there is one simple principle, love God, love yourself and show love to the people around you.
If you give off a positive energy everywhere you go, you will get the positive energy in return and you will notice you suddenly enjoy the things you never did, doors will open up to you, people will open up to you and things will simply just fall in place for you; but it is all up to you to choose to be positive, to choose to be strong, to choose to love yourself and be confident because, girl, you are beautiful and you are one of a kind!

Have a blessed day darling!

xoxo

HADASSAH

An orphan girl; all she had left was her uncle. She didn’t let that weigh her down. She remained a virtuous woman. She did not let the awful world and awful circumstances create someone she wouldn’t recognize someday. She remained true, strong, and beautiful both inside and out.

She grew into in a fine young woman, little did she know she would someday be queen and rule the world; although it wasn’t easy, she fought for that position; she changed her name to Esther to hide her identity as it was the safe thing to do, she gave her all. She remained true to herself. She never lost her confidence and she succeeded.

She was a queen to behold. Young and beautiful, confident yet humble, she went up to the king in troubled times facing death, she was strong, she sacrificed it all for her people because she remained true to who she was, she never forgot where she came from.

The easy life, the gold and silver at her disposal, servants at her beck and call did not make her arrogant and mean. She remained true through it all.

She was honored, she was a queen like no other…..she stayed true, strong, confident and she succeeded. A true legend!

Who are you darling?

Have you forgotten who you really are and gotten lost in this world of chaos?

Darling, remain true to you, be confident and stay strong. It may be hard now but the best things don’t come easy, so hang on luv, you are beautiful and strong and you will be just fine in the end, do not compromise yourself, stay true, confident and strong! :)

xoxo

ROAR!!!

He hurt you, he hit you, he said the most horrible things to you...
What are you going do about it?
Are you going to sit there and let him win? Or are you going to stand up and prove him wrong?

He told you you were too fat or too skinny, not good enough, not pretty enough, not the right girl for him and you believed him. You let him take away your confidence, you became weak.

Are you going to let him win?
Are you going to remain on the floor and prove him right?
Or are you going to get up and prove him wrong, and use every negativity against you as a sandpaper and come out smooth?

For years, you remained on the floor, consumed with pain and self pity, filled with anger and all you wanted was vengeance, you wanted to make him pay for all he did to you. That pain had turned to anger; I have an advice for you. Use that pain, use that anger, get up from the floor and roar, because you are a lioness and you can and will be great!
Channel every pain and anger, find your passion, put your all to it, yes, you can! Choose to be the next Rosa Parks, Florence Nightingale, Audrey Hepburn, Simone de Beauvoir, Marie Curie, Oprah Winfrey, Helen Keller, Beyonce.You can be whoever you want to be once you get up from that floor girl!

Your past does not determine your future. You might have been nothing yesterday but you can be greater that you ever imagined today.

RISE AND BE A QUEEN! Let everyone who ever put you down eat their words when they hear you ROAR!

xoxo

You are beautiful

To you reading this, yes you, keep reading, it's a reminder that you are one of a kind :)

You may have lost confidence in yourself
You may feel inadequate
You may feel you're not pretty enough
You may feel you're not tall enough, or skinny enough, or smart enough

Who cares! You may not be the prettiest or the smartest or the skinniest but you are unique in every way
There are over 6 billion people in the world but there is only one of you and that is something to behold!
No one can ever be you, bask in that for a moment...
All those people you admire and look up to can never be as unique as you are
So stop, stop worry and doubting yourself, cos babe, you are truly amazing and a precious gem

You are one of a kind, don't let anyone tell you different
You the best of you and no one and nothing can ever take that away from you darling.

So, smile, raise your head up, wipe those tears, stand tall and be confident because you are a QUEEN and YOU can rule the world!

xoxo